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vijayalakshmi ravindran | 28 Jun 2012 05:51

Re: Brahmin bridegrooms not getting brides *

Dear Friends ,

This problem is there in all subjects of Brahmins,Infact Madhwa Swamijis
are openly reaching out the public ,appealing for the girls to get married
to Pandits . Such a sorry state of affairs

As I see the thread is commented by men,its one pointed view.Why women are
not interested in getting into Vedic dharma or Vaidika dharma?
Have you are really pondered on this issue .? Seriously NO.

See all the Mutts , they have gurukulams all over the country only for boys
!!!!Do you find any for girls? I haven't seen any.Esteemed members
please enlighten me if you have seen any .Only one in Pune where they teach
women to do Satyanarayan puja ,Marriage and other functions I have read
about this in The Hindu long ago .why not have such institutions all over
the country?

Yes I understand girls have issues of reaching puberty and become mature
and so the Vedic Dharma says women have to be at home.
Home is where they have to learn. But think and ponder from the age of 5 to
10 can't they be too trained in Vedic dharmic way of life .

Most of the homes do not follow the same pattern of dharmas laid down by
the Shastras too,each household has a different set of rules of rajaswala ,
and other practices . Just like men have a single Sandhyavanadana procedure
according to his Mutt or guru parampara, why not have
a single set of rules to the women folk too , teach the girls young at
least in the summer camps to be arranged by the various mutt branches and
see the difference at least the coming generations will not have to face
this problems.

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Vidyasankar Sundaresan | 28 Jun 2012 15:37

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Finally. It is good to see a lady's voice on these sorts of questions on this list.

You bring up a number of good points. Neglecting the education of the
girl child has had disastrous consequences for us. However, I would add
the caveat that teaching vaidika dharma to someone does not necessarily
mean teaching that person to chant portions of the veda and get trained
to be a purohita. For a purohita to be active presumes a yajamAna and
in the vaidika ritual tradition, a yajamAna almost always presumes a
yajamAnI. We need to teach our young ones how to be yajamAnas and
yajamAnIs first. It is like teaching students how to listen to music or to
appreciate painting. They do not have to become professional musicians
or artists themselves.

> 
> And the issue of giving importance to the male child, this has taken such a
> worse turn that we see the ratios of male : female going so down.Who is the
> cause behind this ? PONDER please .I want a male child to continue my
> family should stop .Only then there will be more girls in the brahmin
> community .
> 

On this count, I am unaware if there has been any study that analyzes male
to female ratio by caste. My gut feeling is that in brAhmaNa communities, the
problem is not one of numbers. It is one of not conveying dharma properly to
children, both boys and girls. 

> Just blaming the women folk saying they are becoming modern than men is
> wrong too.Infact in many homes as wornen we see traditions are kept alive
> by the women folk .Even after going to work raising their children,taking

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sriram | 29 Jun 2012 13:02

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Dear
The reluctance of father/mother /both to marry off their daughter to a 
vaidhika brahmana also contributes to this state of  affairs.Here the 
parents think that the status of a vaidhika brahmana is lower in society not 
due to absence of wealth but it is perceived to be lower for declaring in 
society that their son -in-law is a vaidhika brahmana.Iam no exception.
So also a businessman as a son -in-law is only a second or third 
choice.Parents want their daughters to be well above wants and also society 
accepted status levels.May be there is no logical reason but it is 
there.Like preference for a fair skinned girl to a swarthy.These are all 
unexplained but these prejudices do exist.Only education by our Upanyasa 
Karthas -like our Velukudi Krishnan Swamigal -will remove this type of 
prejudices.R.Krishnamoorthy.
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> Dear Friends ,
>
> This problem is there in all subjects of Brahmins,Infact Madhwa Swamijis
> are openly reaching out the public ,appealing for the girls to get married
> to Pandits . Such a sorry state of affairs
>
> As I see the thread is commented by men,its one pointed view.Why women are
> not interested in getting into Vedic dharma or Vaidika dharma?
> Have you are really pondered on this issue .? Seriously NO.

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